There are masters, in my mind, of transformation: Janet Jackson, Gwen Stefani, Madonna, Lady Gaga and Justin Timberlake. They are always evolving as artists, continually seeking a new form of expression, but always being true to themselves- never swayed by media or the public eye. I admire this quality in them. Their confidence is never shaken by what People or US magazine or other tabloids have to say. They are simply themselves. But is that truth or my perception? I think a little of both. Janet Jackson was recently featured in the February 2011 issue of In Style magazine. The article is titled: “Signature Style Janet Jackson.” She has always been stylish and people have copied her look (Control– boxy menswear suits, Rhythym Nation– military inspired, Velvet Rope– bare midriff and red curls). But did you know that she has struggled with her own self image? There were years that she could not stand to look at herself in the mirror. I was shocked when I read this- REALLY?! How is that possible for someone so talented, beautiful, sexy, stunning, awesome dancer to feel that way about herself? The answer- no matter her level of fame, she is still human as are each of us. She is the same as me and you. A girl/woman who sees her flaws when the world sees something very differnt, simply put: perception.
I found myself in a similar boat a few years ago. I had worked for 7 years for a fashion company. A company very well versed in identifying its own corporate culture and brand. Without knowing it, I had become immersed in that culture. I wore their wardrobe day in and day out, longing to be accepted. I left the company to explore my own creative roots. I soon discovered I had lost myself in that company and no longer had a clue who I was. I didn’t have a clue what my own personal style was, what I liked, disliked, etc.
My husband and I went on vacation to one of our favorite little cabins in the mountains of Oklahoma (yes, they have mountains there- the Ouachita mountains). It is a great getaway from the hustle & bustle of the big city, the business of daily to do’s. I spent time journaling and basically scrapbooking my fashion tastes. In the process, I re-discovered who I was, I got my fashion identity back. I am proud to say that I am a Casual Classic Traditionalist (my favorite icons are Audrey Hepburn, Jackie O, and Katie Holmes-Cruise).
Someone told me once in high school that the cool kids are cool because they are simply themselves. At the time, this was very hard for me to understand because I was not one of the cool kids. Now I totally get it! Today whether I am a cool kid or not, I don’t really care because I am true to me. I can simply be me. If people don’t like it, then I don’t need them and it is their issue not mine.
Here are some pics of Janet, Jackie and Audrey:
Imitation is the greatest form of flattery- which is why we have icons! But being genuine is priceless, you are one of a kind and are literally irreplaceble.
Enjoy & Simply be you!
Deidra “Dee Dee” Roe